The Fantasi Dictionary
Speak the language of desire.
Plain-language, consent-first definitions for the words used across kink and BDSM, for the newly curious and the long experienced alike.
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Roles & Dynamics
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24/7
A D/s dynamic that continues outside of individual scenes, as an ongoing part of a couple's…
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Bottom
The partner receiving an activity from someone else in a scene. Related to, but not always the…
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Brat
A submissive who enjoys playfully pushing back or misbehaving to provoke a reaction from their…
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Dominant
The partner who takes the lead or control in a scene or dynamic. Often shortened to Dom…
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Little
Someone who enjoys an age-regression role as part of a consensual adult dynamic. It is distinct…
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Masochist
Someone who enjoys receiving sensation, including intense sensation, within a consensual scene.
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Pet play
Roleplay in which one partner takes on the playful mindset of an animal, often a pup or kitten…
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Primal
A dynamic built around instinct-driven play, such as chasing, growling and wrestling, rather…
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Rigger
Someone who ties rope on a partner; the "top" role in rope and bondage play.
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Rope bunny
Someone who enjoys being tied up; the "bottom" role in rope and bondage play.
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Sadist
Someone who enjoys giving sensation, including intense sensation, within a consensual scene.
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Service submission
A submissive dynamic centered on acts of service, such as cooking, errands and small daily…
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Submissive
The partner who yields control in a scene or dynamic. Often shortened to sub.
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Switch
Someone who enjoys taking either the dominant or submissive role, depending on the partner…
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Top
The partner doing an activity to someone else in a scene. Related to, but not always the same…
Safety & Practice
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Aftercare
Care given after a scene to help partners come back down: cuddling, water, reassurance, or…
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Aftercare kit
Supplies kept on hand for after a scene, such as water, snacks, blankets and first-aid basics…
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Check-in
Pausing during a scene to confirm a partner is still doing okay, verbally or through an agreed…
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Consent
Ongoing, informed, and freely given agreement to an activity. The foundation every other term…
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Drop
A dip in mood or energy, sometimes hours or even days after a scene, that check-ins and…
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Edge play
Activities at the outer edge of risk or intensity. They call for real experience, deep trust…
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Hard limit
Something a person is not willing to do, under any circumstances.
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Limits list
A written list of a person's hard and soft limits, sometimes shared with a new partner before…
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Negotiation
The conversation partners have before a scene to agree on limits, safewords, aftercare needs…
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RACK
Risk-Aware Consensual Kink: an approach built on the idea that kink inherently carries some…
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Safeword
A word or signal agreed on in advance to immediately pause or stop a scene. It is chosen…
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Soft limit
Something a person is hesitant about, or only open to under specific conditions, as opposed to…
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SSC
Safe, Sane, and Consensual: an older, widely known framework for approaching kink responsibly…
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Subspace
An altered, often floaty or deeply relaxed mental state some submissives experience during or…
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Topspace
A focused, sometimes adrenaline-heightened mental state some dominants or tops experience…
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Vetting
Getting to know someone, and often checking references or community standing, before playing…
Activities & Equipment
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Bondage
Restraining a partner with rope, cuffs, or other restraints as part of a scene.
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Chastity
Handing a partner control over when, or whether, you find release, sometimes with a locking…
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Fetish fashion
Clothing chosen for its erotic charge, such as latex, leather, corsetry or heels. For some it…
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Flogger
A whip-like tool with multiple soft or firm tails, used in impact play.
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Impact intensity
How hard or soft impact play is, usually agreed on ahead of time and adjusted through check-ins…
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Impact play
Activities involving striking a partner with a hand, paddle, flogger, or cane, within agreed…
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Impact tool
General term for any implement used in impact play, such as a paddle, crop, cane, or flogger.
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Mind play
Psychological play such as teasing, anticipation, suggestion or hypnosis, where the scene…
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Predicament bondage
A bondage setup where the person tied has to make an uncomfortable choice, such as holding a…
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Roleplay
Acting out a scenario or character together as part of a scene.
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Sensation play
Activities focused on a range of physical sensations, such as temperature, texture and light…
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Sensory deprivation
Limiting one or more senses, often sight with a blindfold, to heighten the others during a…
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Shibari
A Japanese-derived style of rope bondage, often valued for its visual artistry as well as the…
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Voyeurism & exhibitionism
The pleasure of watching, or of being watched, always with everyone involved having agreed to…
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Wax play
Dripping candle wax on a partner's skin for a temperature-based sensation, using candles…
Community & Social
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Dungeon
A space, private or at a venue, set up with equipment for kink play.
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Kink-aware
A person, especially a professional like a therapist, who understands kink and won't…
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Munch
A casual, clothed, public meetup for the kink community, usually at a restaurant or bar. It is…
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Play party
An organized event where members of the community can play in a shared, often supervised space.
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Polyamory
Having, or being open to, more than one romantic or intimate relationship at a time, with…
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Protocol
Agreed-on rules of behavior within a D/s relationship or at an event. They can be as simple as…
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Scene (event)
Used two ways in the community: a single kink encounter between partners, or the wider local…
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Vanilla
Sex or a relationship style without kink elements. Also used for someone who isn't part of the…